Although parental authority must always be maintained, teaching your children how to negotiate is a skill that they can carry with them their whole lives.

However, some may think that bargaining with your child is not an effective parenting technique, but if done correctly, bargaining with your child will not compromise your authority, in fact it will actually strengthen it even more.

Children are more likely to respect parents who show a willingness to listen to their side of an argument and whilst they are living together with you in your home, your children have no choice but to accept your authority. That does not mean that you should not listen to their opinions.

Negotiating with your children creates a win-win situation that benefits both parents and children. By showing your kids that you are approachable and open to their views, opinions, wants and needs, you are teaching your kids a quality that they can adopt for when they eventually reach adolescence.

As a parent of an adolescent teen, you will find that negotiating and bargaining will become your primary behaviour management tool. Adolescents are very vocal, not to mention volatile, and they want to be treated as intellectual equals by you, the parent. They want you to listen to their views and respect them, too.

There are many things that we as parents can do to manage changing child behaviour. A child’s behaviour does not usually change overnight, though and a behaviour that you think you have quashed may reappear in the future. Only thing is, it will be a little easier to change a second time round.

Lucas Uren is the father of three children that are permanently undergoing changing child behavior. It is this changing child behavior that has led him to research the much researched topic of how to better manage child behavior and he has found many useful techniques and tips on how to do so.

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Lie #1–You need to take a load off. Have you heard this lie lately? It’s subversive because there is so much truth in it that is being distorted. We see it in magazines, commercials, talk shows…moms are being stretched so thin, trying to do everything under the sun. Sooner or later, there is going to be a straw that breaks the camel’s back. Before it’s too late, mama, you had better take a load OFF! Well, here’s the truth in it. Yes! We often do too much, but think for a second about what we’re doing. What is eating up so much of your time that you can’t do the really important stuff like raise your kids? How many television shows are you watching during a week? How often do you try to beat someone’s high score on a Facebook game? How long do you spend talking on the phone? When today’s culture tells us to take a load off, they mean to drop the kids off somewhere and take time for YOU. I’m ready to tell you that you need to take a load off where it really matters. Find those pointless time wasters that are pulling you away from the family and drop those from your life!

Lie #2–Your job is temporary. I know you’ve heard this one. It’s the lie that our culture tells us over and over. Motherhood is just a little thingee to do for now. So, take a deep breath. You won’t be stuck in this trench forever. It’s the lie that gives you a temporal perspective on the whole family thing. Without even realizing it we begin to focus on relief from our circumstances rather than glorifying in our responsibilities. We begin to believe the lie and think that life will be good ‘..when the little ones finally get in preschool,..when the summer is over and the kids are back in school,..when the teenagers are finally out of the house,..’ Do you see the danger here? Our culture has us believing that we need to look forward to a day when we finally get our days back! I’m ready to tell you that your job is eternal! The moments you are investing in your family today will build up in time to reward you in ways you could never imagine. THIS is your life and you need to enjoy it NOW. If not here, where? If not now, when?

Lie #3–You could do a lot better. We see this lie everywhere in the media. It’s that twenty-something picture-perfect model with the little kids that seems to have it all together. It’s that stunning actress posing with her family. It’s the business mogul that manages to balance family and a burgeoning business. This is a lie! You cannot serve two masters. One will have your heart and the other gets the leftovers. Our culture has taught us that motherhood is failure…it’s only for those women who didn’t really get a decent education or can’t hold a good job. It’s for women who aren’t creative or don’t have any drive. This is a subtle message but one that certainly has rocked our ships way off course. The lie tells us, "C’mon, mom, really? Couldn’t you do any better than that? Where’s the glory in motherhood?" I’m here to tell you that the glory is inside of you. It’s how you look at the world. When you look at the world through earthly eyes, you see it all extrinsically. Everything is outside. It’s the kind of car you drive or the house you live in. It’s your career title or your circle of friends. But when you look at the world through heavenly eyes, you begin to see it all intrinsically. Everything is inside. It’s the contentment when you hold your baby or the pride when you see your teen succeed. It’s the love that grips your heart and won’t let go. And believe you, me, you cannot do any better than that!

Lie #4–You need fulfillment. Every message that the media delivers to moms is filtered through the "not enough" lie. This is an awesome tactic by the media because it works so well. You can sell anything if you create a need for it. And unfortunately, moms are buying into the lie that we don’t have enough. We need it easier. We need it cheaper. We need it quicker. We need it now! If our culture can convince moms that they need fulfillment, then they have created a huge population of eager shoppers. There’s only one problem here. If things make life easier, then why does it seem to be harder than ever? If things make life cheaper, then why is the average family drowning in debt? If things make life quicker, then why can’t we get enough done in an average day? I’m ready to tell you that fulfillment doesn’t come from without. It comes from within. Until you find fulfillment in your life where you are right now, you’ll never find fulfillment where you’re headed in the future.

Lie #5–You don’t need to take it so seriously. Our modern culture feeds us this lie that motherhood and homemaking is just something you do on the side. And we are now seeing firsthand the results of this belief–broken homes, disparate families, failing marriages, and rebellious kids. And at the heart of it all is a mom who thought she didn’t need to take it so seriously. I mean, it’s not like it’s a real career or something. Well, they’re right about that. It’s not just a career. It’s a calling. When God called you to be a mom, He wasn’t kidding around. I’m ready to tell you this is NOT a job to be taken lightly. This is a career that requires every bit of you and more. It is something you do with your whole heart. Stop believing the lies that our culture feeds us. See through the methods our media uses to discredit motherhood. Do it now before you waste another moment living with less than the best. The world keeps telling moms to do just enough to get by. But God sets a higher standard. He demands excellence. Motherhood is an eternal investment. You may not be able to see it now, but when you give it your all, when you approach this profession with the respect it deserves, when you stand up tall and profess loudly, "Yes! I AM a mom!" then, and only then, will you see the blessings of this consecrated career unfold before you.

Now, it’s your turn. What do you think? Has our culture been handing us lies? Are you believing any of them? I want to hear from you!

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Fatherhood never comes in easy to a man’s life, this state of maturity in terms of relationship and responsibility can never be taken lightly by anyone, let alone be taken for granted and treated of less importance. It will be like an epitome of fathers all around the world to see the whole picture of being a good father in the eyes of their own child. Thinking of all the possible things you could be handling at this stage of your life could only mean that all men ought to be prepared for it. But could a teenager or unmarried man practice fatherhood? Well, before you can become a father, you must first become a good brother and a good friend. These two roles of manhood can be like your golf cart wheels which will turn for your advancement to the location of your golf ball, taking it to the hole, to the goal. But how can be a brother or being a friend be counted as prerequisites to good fatherhood? We will be taking these roles to consideration one by one.

Being a good brother means taking responsibilities of leadership, yes, men are called out to be leaders, as initiators of a Godly relationship, as protectors of peace and order, and as the foundation of the family. As initiators, we men ought not to be told of what have to be done, this means planning ahead and taking the first step to a well versed activity. Men who have not taken their roles as initiators have led to women taking up the flowers and proposing to the guys, ugly to look at when it should be the men doing it instead of the other way around. Be a brother to your sisters and serve them by initiating wholesome activities, don’t just sit around the couch and ask the girls what they want to do, serve them by taking the first step. Again, I mean wholesome, lusty activities never serve women, they might like it in some cases but in the long run, they will suffer the consequences more than the men.

Being a good friend means sticking out for your buddy in times of need, but more importantly, being a good friend means being a good influence. Don’t be a bad one, that doesn’t help a lot. Be a guide of spiritual growth and maturity to the people around you including your family. Be an example of a man dependent to God, be a reflection of His love to the people around you, be a living testimony for others to praise the Lord you serve.

If you have mastered being good brother and being a good friend, then you are ready to take the course of being a good father. No need in taking it up now, the process will just unwind itself at the proper time; just do your part of being a brother and being a friend. Fatherhood always comes after brotherhood and friendship. Remember to always put God in the foundation of your heart, and not even the most horrible work of Satan can put you down.

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Children need more than food, shelter and clothing from the significant males in their lives. They need to know they are accepted and taught with kind discipline until they can learn to practice self discipline.They need to learn to solve problems in a safe environment.

Discipline versus Punishment

Discipline comes from the word disciple and means to teach, lead, guide and mentor. It is a mutually respectful way to build relationships and foster growth in children and all relationships. You discipline a child by telling him you are concerned about his unacceptable behavior and want to work with him to find other ways to handle life. In other words, you want to teach him/her acceptable behavior and how to achieve it. It is not an attack on his soul or identity.

Punishment is harsh, punitive act that may stop the behavior momentarily but has not taught a suitable way to encourage positive action.

Some of the descriptions in my Thesaurus for punishment are;

• correction, reproof, penalty,
• infliction, suffering, deprivation
• unhappiness, trial, penance
• retribution, mortification, disciplinary action
• fine, reparation, forfeiture, confiscation

Do those descriptions make you cringe? Do you remember being punished as a child? Was it a humiliating experience? Do you love the one who handed out that harsh punishment? Or did you fear them and resent the power they had over you and your life?

Dads Need to Lead by Example and Guidance

As I travel throughout the country giving parenting and relationship classes, I hear many males say they hunger to build connections with their children. Most also say they hungered for that relationship with their own father, but did not know how to build it.

One father told me that the only time his dad hugged him was when he hit a home run. He wanted someone who would teach him the ropes of manhood. He wanted external boundaries and to taught how to build inner boundaries and responsibility.

They wanted someone to teach them what to do, not punish them for what they did wrong.

Male Role Models Needed by Both Genders

An uncle, grandpa, coach, teacher, minister, dad or step-dad have a sacred trust to nourish the soul of the child. Girls need to know that men are kind and loving. Boys need to learn how to function in relationships with respect.

If you grew up thinking that discipline was the same as punishment, then please have a shift in your thinking. This is not a path that builds strong relationships and bonds with love. As parents we should consider ourselves more as guides and teachers rather than wardens or commanding officers.

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• 10. Kids who push, hit, throw, kick and bite. What the heck? Don’t they know what "use your words" means? Oh wait….
• 9. Kids who say things like, stupid, shut up, idiot, dummy, butt-head. Yep, those would be the words.
• 8. Kids who can not, will not, and do not cooperate. To complicate matters, parents also expect the kids to cooperate willingly and with smiles on their faces.
• 7. Kids who ignore their parents. How dare those little munchkins completely ignore, walk away from, cover their ears or start to sing when we have something really, really, REALLY important to tell them again, and again, and again.
• 6. Kids who noodle, stall, get distracted and act like they don’t have to be somewhere important. Like, yesterday.
• 5. Kids who think they no longer need naps. Can someone PLEASE explain to me why little kids won’t sleep and teenagers will only sleep?
• 4. Kids who want to stay in the PJ’s all day or wear the ballet costume to school for a week or refuse to wash their favorite pair of wind pants – ever. First impressions are important right? Even when they are 3 – right? After all, you never get a second chance to make a first impression – right?
• 3. Kids who refuse to go along with your plans and try and keep you trapped at home all day long. Come on already. Look how damn nice it is outside. Let’s go, let’s go, let’s go!
• 2. Kids who yell, manhandle, annoy, bother or wake up the new baby. Yeah, yeah, yeah. We want them involved with their new sibling, but what don’t they understand about – BACK OFF??
• 1. Kids who refuse to eat what we put in front of them, sleep when we want them to sleep or potty train when we are ready for them to be done with the diapering. Damn kids anyway.

When you boil it all down, this is the list of the most common parenting challenges. Just for fun, for the next 24 hours, when you are considering taking one of these small annoyances and turning it into a serious problem, that needs immediate attention, instead – take a breath, look into the eyes of your beloved child and ask yourself – is it really such a big challenge? And if the answer is no, then let it go. Just this once, let it go.

Vicki Hoefle, Director and Creator / Parenting On Track ™

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The way your parents brought you up is probably the same way you are raising your children right now.

Diana Baumrind (1967) suggests that there are three parenting styles used by parents to help children with behaviour.

The three types of parenting styles are:

Authoritarian – a parent who likes to control.

Authoritative – someone who leads and gives guidance.

Permissive (Laissez-faire) – an anything goes, laid back casual approach. (Children are people too, a parent’s guide to young children’s behaviour. Louise Porter, 2001)

Controlling parents have strict rules that must be followed. They try to have power over their children and issue commands at all times. And issue demands and are unresponsive. There is no room for failure to comply with these rules they make or punishment will be the result. These children have a tendency to be more reserved, more apprehensive, unhappy and have low self esteem. Confrontational, angry and unwilling to persist with most tasks that they encounter. Children of controlling parents are unable to make decisions on their own and sometimes can become self-destructive (Baumrind 1977).

Authoritative parenting still have limits on their children but encourage them to be more independent and to make their own decisions, giving guidance when needed. Using this technique with children seem to create a more cooperative child. When requested to perform a task they see it as being fair and reasonable. These children tend to be more self-confident when it comes to dealing with their own needs, they have a confidence in their parents that they will always be there for them, listen to their needs. In doing this, these parents will create a child that will develop trust for others either in business or just in family life.

Permissive parents are responsive but not demanding. Tending to be more lenient and tolerant. These parents are very nurturing and accept children’s needs and wants. Letting children make their own decisions early in their life even if they are not capable of doing so. No rules or boundaries are set and children are made to feel as though they are free. Children raised by lenient parents can have higher self-esteem and better social skills but are inclined to have behaviour problems.

These parenting styles teach our children and can be a great influence on how they develop and socialise throughout their learning years and into adulthood.

Nobody is an expert at raising children, there is no handbook to follow but using a little from each style can be the best approach.

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Sometimes children believe that they have a job: to fight their parents every day in order to make them angry. This is how some families work for about 20 years, until the child realises that he made some serious mistakes and that his parents just wanted to create a civilized and decent person.

There some cases when this interaction gets out of hand, and when the anger between the parents and their children is so intense, and it lasts so long, that it ends up being expressed in some really hurtful ways.

Children are guilty because they do not understand that their parents just want to take care of them, but most of the guilt belongs to the parents who should understand that their children do not think like an adult and that they should be the ones who should be able to manage these situations. Parents should know how to control their anger, should try to understand their children in order to avoid conflicts.

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However, the parents of today’s generation often feel and consider that their children are still young to handle different kinds of emotions. But parents should remember that it is better to help your children have confidence because the child who is confident is secured of his skills and abilities and is able to recognize and accept his strengths and limitations.

Thus, good parenting skills are important to help you communicate about the situations and their feelings. Have a conversation regarding your child’s feeling will help them understand and learn how to manage and handle these thoughts and feelings and in dealing with others.

Here are some of the good parenting skills which you can use to help you manage and handle your children with love and care.

Monitor their behavior. Observing the behavior of your child will help you discover what they feel. Your child is possibly upset if he runs to his room and bangs the door. He may be happy or excited if he smiles with mouth wide open.

Ask how he feels. Asking questions will help you learn if there’s something happened in school, in the family or with friends. Do not look forward that your child will just share if something is bothering him or something great happened to him. You should be the one to initiate the conversation.

Facilitate recognize emotions. Sometimes your child is not sure of their feelings. Thus, it is better if you provide them with different emotions to select from. This will aid in identifying the emotions of your child and will assist them in dealing with what they feel.

Pay attention. Listen to your child after you recognized what they feel. Allow them to talk without any disturbance as they share the events that elicit their feelings. Most of the children will share when you show interest and pay attention.

Discuss about the situations. Having a conversation with your child regarding his experience will make him feel better. It is the parents’ responsibility to validate his feelings first to make sure what to say or do. Talk about the ways that could make him feel good.

Declare that you are happy and proud. Say to your child that you are happy and proud of him for recognizing his feelings and for the efforts in making himself better. Let him hear that you are praising him to give him confidence and motivation to do well.

Give rewards. Giving rewards to your child after a good or bad experience will make him feel better. Have a sleep with him in comfortable children’s bedroom sets or give upholstered headboards as gifts will even make him happier.

Talking and discussing to your child about how they feel will teach them to cope and manage their emotions. It paves way for a good communication and it increases the self-esteem of your child as they recognize that their feelings are important both to you and him.

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It is normal for kids to pass through the lying phase. In fact, it is a part of their development. However, that does not mean that it has to be tolerated. If you want to avoid the situation where your child, even at later age, relies on lying as a means of coping, then you have to handle your kid’s lying behavior the moment it blooms.

Discouraging the act of lying will be handled worse by severe punishments. Spanking a child after telling a lie will not solve anything, but will instead affirm that sense of control that the child wants to have over you. Instead of spanking your child for lying, focus on the values that you want to inculcate. To prevent him from lying, teach him honesty, and create an environment where he will strive for it.

For example your child lied to you’re the first time, and is quite firm about the lie. He may sound extremely convincing, but as a parent you should know better. If you know that your child is lying, find a way to make him realize that lying will simply not work with you, in a simple yet effective way.

Tell him that your hearts are actually joined by a hundred invisible threads and that every time he lies, he cuts one of these threads, severing the connection between you along the way.

The more he tells a lie, the more threads he cut. And if his lying goes on, all the threads will be cut and nothing will connect you two anymore. But if he decides to tell the truth, the thread will grow thicker and stronger until it will be impossible to cut.

Something as simple as this can have a tremendous impact in your child’s innocent mind. Instead of beating him to death for not telling the truth, instill good values and make him appreciate the benefits of telling the truth. Telling the truth will make your child feel authentic, encouraging him to do it as much as possible.

It is your job as parents to keep your children as honest as possible without being strict, violent, or uptight. When your kids lie, do not lose focus or take the lies personally. After all, kids will always be kids.

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Many people today believe connection with our children is based only upon parenting roles, or teaching them what adults believe to be the necessary skills and values to fit in with society. However, the underlying problem with that type of guidance is that it creates simply another version of us or a clone based upon our own, at times, very limited beliefs. And sadly, many of those beliefs are rooted in fear based illusions, manipulated as adults see the world. This is primarily due the collective years of negativity and violence we have been exposed to as humankind attempts to evolve beyond killing each other over control; or, as insane as it is, religious beliefs in the name of God.

Some would say our children are becoming desensitized to violence and look upon them as not placing value on life. Well, what do you expect, when most of the television shows, movies and games produced have violence or abusive situations as the core theme of the programming? And in most cases that is exactly what it is happening, the subconscious mind is being programmed to accept violence and negativity as normal. Therefore, the next time you feel your children are becoming desensitized to violence, ask yourself when you last sat down with them to discuss the reasons why people do what they do. If you open up this form of discussion you may be surprised to learn what children actually think pertaining to what is going on in the world today.

Humankind has long since moved beyond the Industrial Age and deeply entrenched itself in the Information Age. We now have communication devices which are capable of allowing us to have instantaneous contact with anyone in the world, twenty-four hours a day. Our children now have the capability to speak their mind to anyone that is willing to listen. Therefore, if they are not speaking to you, there is a good possibility they are opening up to someone else. Children want and need to be heard. They need to express their own creative thoughts and limitless visions without criticism. Ask yourself when you last simply sat there and listened to what your child was saying, without interjecting your own beliefs or fears into the conversation?

We are now living in a world where spiritual awareness is transcending old religious paradigms. We are quickly moving into a new four-dimensional (spiritual) planet and many old third-dimensional thought patterns are becoming extinct in the minds of our children. This is especially true as the mass consciousness of the world increases in energy vibration. Our children in many cases, believe religious historical accountings are misinterpreted to a level where the true meaning is lost and replaced by the illusions of the religious leaders own limited beliefs. Therefore, they are now questioning these translations more than every before, all based upon a fresh outlook which is rooted in spiritual awareness.

It is our responsibility to open up a new channel of communication with our children, a new level based upon becoming better listeners and transcending the old ideology that the parent is always right, merely because of past experiences.

The past does not in fact equal the future in new age thought…it only records the many mistakes made, of which, our children are very capable of correcting based upon a higher level of spiritual awareness in today’s world. Therefore, the next time your child has something they need to say, simply sit there, open your heart and prepare to be awed.

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