Best Parents

Common sense in parenting is a rather relative idea. Some parents simply do not have it and they need to be told just how to parent. That is why there are so many bestselling parenting books out there. There is nothing wrong with needing a little help in the area of your kids, parenting is difficult during the best of times and if those books can help you then go ahead and get them!

There are some basic rules when it comes to good parenting however. Here are the basics of parenting that every parent should know:

Be kind

It is never okay to demean your children. You do not ever want to put them down or hurt their feelings on purpose. No matter how mad they make you feel you should always work to control your temper. Not only will this keep you from doing and saying something that you will regret, it will also teach your children to control themselves as well.

Be a good role model

Being a good role model is important. This means teaching your children how to be good people all of the time. You want to teach them to be kind and to control their temper as well as to share. The most important thing that you will teach your children is the difference between right and wrong. Without this very important knowledge your children will not know how to succeed out there in the real world.

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When we think of a mother, what kind of a picture we get in our mind? A compassionate lady who will sacrifice all her comforts and will work ceaselessly in the home without expecting any monetary reward, only to take care of her children. Is this correct? Motherhood means sacrifice and pain from day one of conception. But this pain and sacrifice brings forward a beautiful feeling in a woman after she finds that her children are happy and healthy. That is the only reward she desires from her children. And that is motherhood.

This is true not only for humans but all mothers of the animal kingdom. A tigress will attack you and kill you if you dare to approach her cubs. Every animal mother teaches her young ones the art of living in their world. Every mother is ready to go to any length to save her young ones. A woman begins dreaming about her child soon after conception. Many expectant mothers talk to the yet to be born child. They feel totally comfortable doing that. They plan for the future of the kid, food, education, clothing, shelter everything. From the poorest to the richest mothers, we find that a sense of protecting her progeny is the most common trait.

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For most of us, our first father is God. A large majority of the world considers God as their father; or rather call God as their father. God is father to all in such believing families. What about biological fathers? How does one become a good father? What are the yardsticks by which we measure the goodness of a father?

This is a subject for discussion and application of thought. Who is the final judge about the goodness of the father? The mother? The children? The society? What qualities should a man possess to be called a good father? These questions generate a bigger debate.

Can a mother judge her husband about his goodness as a father? That judgment can depend on so many probabilities. What are her yardsticks? How was her father? What are her beliefs? Do these beliefs match those of her husband? How much does she love her husband and her children? If it comes to taking sides, whose side will she take? Will it be a well thought-out decision or one colored by many other factors?

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Michael Grose’s
10 Commandments for Parenting            

Here are the wisest commandments ever commended to parents:

1.Thou shalt be consistent.  Do as you say you will. Children know where they stand when you are consistent, follow through and mean what you say.

2.Thou shalt expect children to contribute (without being paid). Expect children to help at home but don’t expect them to do so graciously all the time. Here is a question to ask yourself from time to time: What do your children do that someone else relies on?

3.Thou shalt encourage regularly and persistently. Remember that encouragement and praise will get children a lot further than criticism and punishment so be your child’s best encourager rather than his fiercest critic. Encouragement helps a child link his or her self-esteem to the process, rather than the results of what they do.

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If you are like most parents, you probably want to raise healthy, smart kids. You may already have some ideas on how to achieve this. Here are some parenting tips that will help parents ensure their children develop to their full potential.

One of the parenting tips that work best is giving your children quantity and quality time. When you spend time with your kids, try to engage them in meaningful conversations. Try to build fun and healthy communications and relationships while the kids are young.

In many homes, parents do not really talk to their kids when they are young. But when the kids become teens, these parents desperately want to talk to their teens. But the opportunity is not there anymore. Try not to become average parents. According to statistics, an average American parent spends less than fifteen minutes a week in serious discussion with their children.

Practice and develop good habits. It is important that you push your kids to exercise their faith and put into action the lessons that they have received. For example, it is one thing to learn about charity and caring, but it is another thing to volunteer some time to visit nursing homes and serve the elderly. Or participate in building a house for the poor.

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Traditional public schools often fail to supply the resources and assistance required to help troubled teens. Their inability to deal with the unique challenges facing these students is one reason why many parents consider boarding schools and other options.

The lives of teenagers often revolve around school. They spend a great deal of time there. It’s the source of their social lives. It’s the centerpiece to their lives, in many cases. As such, the school environment will inevitably be a key factor in their overall well-being. In the case of troubled teens, that takes on an added dimension of significance. Parents want their children to receive the support they need to make positive changes and to turn things in a more positive direction.

Unfortunately, many public schools simply aren’t up to the task. They’re unable to provide the kind of supportive and constructive atmosphere those challenged students need.

It’s important to recognize that the shortcomings don’t stem from intentional neglect on the part of the schools. Troubled teens pose a challenge that don’t match up with the organization and structure of the institutions. Public schools are organized to serve as many students as possible. That means that they must aim for the middle. Students who have issues that fall outside of that target zone are difficult to assist. Even though the schools do their best to work with these kids, they understandably fall short.

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One of the most frustrating parts of parenting are having to deal with temper tantrums. Toddlers can really test their parents sanity once a child gets to be approximately 18 months of age until turning 3-4 years of age. One of the most common reasons children throw temper tantrums is because a child can’t do or have something he or she wants. Unfortunately, the biggest mistake parents make is to give a child an item or allow a child to do an activity after having said "No" and the child throws a fit. The child just learned that throwing a temper tantrum got the child what he or she wanted.

It can be very difficult as a parent not to give in to your child when he or she is behaving terribly and you just want it to stop. However, this sort of behavior can only get worse and when the child is a teenager, he or she will increase the severity and intensity of the behavior to the point where you either give in or deal with serious consequences.

At that point a little temper tantrum from a two-year-old will seem like a piece of cake. You’ll wish for just a temper tantrum at that point. It is much easier to follow through with a little 2-year-old than a much bigger and stronger 14-year-old that has had 12 years of learning what works to get what he or she wants. The first tip for preventing tantrums is to always make sure your child is getting proper sleep and eating every few hours as sleep deprivation and hunger can make tantrums more likely when saying no to a child.

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To be perfect parent for our children is not an easy thing. This needs a hard work. The following will explain some tips that can be tried by parents to be (closer to) perfect parents. These tips are for parents who work or do not work. Hopefully you can take advantage of the time that you have with the children effectively and efficiently.

Know your children
Every child has different character. Thus, the methods used in educating and guiding them must be in accordance with the character of children. Do not force your children to have a character that is not theirs. Always know your children when they have problems. This can be done by give empathy to your children. However, do not forget to identify their development based on their age.

Appreciated their good behavior
Every parent should appreciate the good behavior that their children do. Try not to punish them. This is because the punishment may lead them into the rebellion. Give your children praise if they deserve it without delaying it. In this case, do not wait until your children do something special. Parents should give children something that they like regularly. For example, give your children things that they like if they have done their job well.

Let your children get involved
Involve your children in making decisions if they have enough ability to do this. You can also involve them in the activities held by family. For instance, involve your children in daily tasks which are suitable with their ages, involve them in planning a family vacation, and other simple things.

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Just because you and your spouse chose to divorce does not mean that both of you cannot take an active role in raising your child. Following divorce proceedings, it is fairly common for ex-spouses to put aside their differences and work together to create a loving and supporting environment for their child.

What is Co-Parenting?

Co-parenting occurs when two parents work together to create a positive environment for their children. Typically, co-parenting requires a concerted effort from both parents to make their child’s wellbeing their top priority. In order for co-parenting to be successful, both parents should be included in all decisions that affect the wellbeing of their child, including:

• Which doctors they will see

• Whose health insurance they should be on

• Where their child is staying and for how long

• What schools the child will attend

• Any decisions about their medical treatment and care

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What happens to discipline when your child argues with you? Does the discipline become a battle? Learn 3 ways to model character and practice the winning formula for solving arguments. It’s time you get the respect you deserve.

The Discipline Problem: Endless Arguing between You and Your Kids:

Arguing with kids is like a spinning top. It keeps spinning until you give up, tip over, and say, "Yes" when you want to say, "No."

Kids push arguments to senseless heights. Be rational when they’re not, otherwise your discipline will fail. They’ll win. Why? Many kids argue louder and longer than their parents. If this is the way your kids get what they want, you can change it.

Let’s look at 3 discipline solutions for ending arguments and solving problems, but first let’s look into your past.

Did You Argue with Your Parents?

If so, did you win? Was it easier for them to give up than to keep arguing? Was arguing the way you got what you wanted? Do you remember telling your parents -

1. You always say, "No!"

2. You make me do everything!

3. It isn’t fair!

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